The problem with goals then…
So, what are the problems of setting goals versus creating your very own quest?
Goals, as they stand, have the following issues:
- They can offer a lack of focus
- If Goals are too broad and too far away to give proper scope
- They lack urgency
- There is a fear of failure — either due unrealistic goal setting or a lack of motivation
- Often end goals are not researched properly, thereby leading to a sense of being overwhelmed
- There is the illusion of always being a failure until you achieve the final goal
- The goal you picked is not your own but what others believe you should be doing — lack of motivation
- That the goal is about physical gains like money and not about a state of being.
The problem for so many is that you end up putting yourself on a set of rails designed by someone else, by society, to achieve a goal, not of your own making. You need to think beyond what you have at the moment, you need to use what you have right now and how you can achieve that quest reward with those limited resources and knowledge. Focusing on that singular point doesn’t work, your journey it what counts. And through that, you will gain confidence, and because of your hard work, the continued successes and achievements become deserved.
So, how do we create a solid, epic quest for you and your life?
Creating your very own Questline
What is your desired goal, your quest reward? You still need to ask yourself this question, because this is your starting point. Make sure it’s an adequately epic goal, something that will challenge you and motivate you.
Once you know what the final quest reward roughly looks like in your mind, then you can start breaking it down into smaller pieces to create your quest line. A good method for breaking something down into its constituent parts is First Principles thinking. Remember this only works if you do solid research around what you want to do and/or achieve. Don’t pick a quest you know nothing about.
A few tips when considering your goals, depending on the time frame you have available or have set for yourself, it’s best that you only 1 to 3 goals for any given time frame. Going above that number again defeats the point of this method and will overwhelm you.
If your quest reward is epic enough and will push you just beyond your comfort zone, then having around 1 to 2 goals across a 1+ year time frame is something that anyone can work towards. A year or more is a long time, but remember this the final point, you’re breaking it down into smaller milestones along the way. For example, saying you want a body that’s fit enough to run a marathon every year is an epic goal, this will require a long-term investment with many smaller goals, and a continued state of being.
To make sure your pick the right quest:
“The best way to choose goals that align with your happiness is to ask yourself these Three Most Important Questions.
1) What beautiful human experiences do you want to have?
2) What will help you grow and become the man/woman you want to be?
3) In what ways can you contribute to others and the world as a whole?”
Now one of the reasons we want to use the terminology of quests is because you need to make sure that your goals are set in the positive. You need to avoid creating goals that aim for you to not do something, or to stop doing something. You need to frame it in such a way that you move towards something you want to do. For example, instead of saying you want to quit smoking, frame it so that you wish to move towards a healthier lifestyle. This journey requires you to remove smoking gradually, increasing cardiovascular exercise and hopefully keeps your mind and body busy so that you don’t feel the need for a cigarette.